1. Get Organized: Research the issues and understand your goals and priorities. Be clear and separate your non-negotiable issues from the areas where you’re flexible.

2. Get Prepared: Gather relevant documents and evidence and have it ready to show the Mediator.

3. Choose the Right Mediator: Select a mediator who is experienced, neutral, and skilled in the specific type of dispute (e.g., family, business, or workplace mediation).

4. Come with an Open Mind: Be willing to listen to the other party’s perspective and consider creative solutions. Avoid rigid positions or preconceived outcomes.

5. Communicate Clearly and Respectfully: Express your needs and concerns calmly and concisely. Avoid blame or confrontational language to maintain a constructive atmosphere.

6. Focus on Interests, Not Positions: Identify underlying needs (e.g., security, fairness) rather than sticking to fixed demands. This helps find mutually beneficial solutions.

7. Be Honest and Transparent: Provide accurate information and avoid withholding key details, as trust is critical for productive mediation.

8. Manage Emotions: Stay calm and composed, even if discussions become tense. Take breaks if needed to maintain focus and avoid escalation.

9. Engage Actively: Listen attentively to the other party, ask clarifying questions, and show willingness to collaborate toward a resolution.

10. Bring a Support Person (if allowed): Having a trusted friend, advisor, or attorney (if permitted) can provide emotional or strategic support, but ensure they don’t dominate the process.

11. Understand the Process: Familiarize yourself with how mediation works, including its voluntary and confidential nature, to feel more confident and engaged.

12. Be Realistic About Outcomes: Aim for a fair and workable solution rather than a “win.” Understand that compromise is often necessary.

13. Follow Through on Agreements: If an agreement is reached, ensure you understand the terms and are committed to fulfilling them to build trust and finalize the resolution.